The hardest thing you can have to do

Bad things have happened to you - bad things have happened to everybody.  That doesn't mean that what has happened to you doesn't hurt - it hurts bad.  However, if you can come to understand at a heart level that the baggage is in the past and should not be brought forward.  This is the one of the hardest things a human can do.

And as always the Universe will tell you "Here's your change..."